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Here we are, the beginning of a new year. I don’t make resolutions. Instead I set a few goals and post them where I can SEE them. I’ve set three goals for this year, and I’m going to approach them a bit more light-heartedly than ever before.

My first goal is to “release WORRY.” As the Italians sing, “Que sera, sera. What will be, will be.”

Of course by my age, I know I can’t roll a boulder uphill, yet I persist in wasting time and energy worrying about adult children, politics, the stock market, polar bears and pollution.

Whenever I found myself going round in circles I’d change clothes and head to the gym, or to a yoga class, or for a long walk. This year I am trying something completely new.

Another goal is to give up FRUSTRATION because products, people, and situations aren’t the way I think they should be. I may be right, but what does it matter if I don’t speak up? If I don’t return something that wasn’t as promised? If I accept bad behavior? Or bad service? This year I will address what needs to be addressed, after I dress in this perfect tee.

And last, REGRETS. I have a few, who doesn’t? In hindsight I realize I am a bit impulsive… hell, my motto at one point was, “I’ll burn that bridge when I get to it!” But it’s a quality I like in myself… mostly. I have learned to temper my impulsiveness with careful consideration before I leap. But I do love to leap. Adventure! New Experiences! Memories!

Since not all of my adventures worked out well, I’d occasionally fret about it. One day I was rehashing something that “could have turned out better if I had only done x, y, or z.”

My very wise friend looked me in the eye and said, in his lovely Texas twang, “Darlin’ you can’t unring that bell.” 

Life just is what it is. Or was. We (hopefully) learn from our mistakes and do better. I also know that each experience, whether good or bad, got me here, now. I doubt if any of the people involved in any of those silly incidents ever give me a second thought. I doubt they even remember. Regrets, meh.

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I wish you all a Happy, Adventure-filled New Year!

XO Donna

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Donna O’Klock spent 35 years in the beauty business, talking, teaching, and learning. These days, she’d “rather write than talk. It’s better that way because I can edit.” She writes two blogs, and, and is the author of  Sick and Tired & Sexy: Living Beautifully with Chronic Illness.

Austin, Texas, has been her home since 1978, but she and her fiancé have downsized and are traveling the country in their RV.

12 thoughts on “THE T-SHIRT TO PROVE IT”

    • Hahahahaha! Thank you Diane. The only one I’ve ordered is “meh.” Maybe it’s a sufficient enough response to every occasion? Wink, wink.
      XO Donna

  1. If I had t-shirts that said “I’m too old for x, y, z… “ We could fill in the blanks for more shirts than I have room for. Happy New Year sweet friend. Excited to hear more about your big lifestyle transition. xoxox, Brenda

  2. As Dr. Phil says we do better when we know better and this is so true. And as your friend says you can’t unring a bell.As we get older we need to let go of so much and just be who we know we really are.

    • So true, Victoria. “Letting go” is a valuable, and oft overlooked, tool for our growth and happiness.
      XO Donna

    • Dearest Contessa –
      I fear so. But, I am going to chip in my two cents anyway… “rage against the dying of the light.”
      XO Donna

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