Covertly I watch the four giggling women as they take their seats at the table. The restaurant is busy, but I’m aware I’m not the only one who’s noticed their arrival. There are many admiring glances being shot their way.
I know immediately which one I would like to emulate, at least in appearance, should I be so lucky to reach my 70s.
I love their stylish sunglasses and smart outfits. They have chic bags and bright scarves, and one woman is a walking masterclass in the art of textured layering: She’s draped several shades of caramel in silk, wool and tweed around her body like a perfect afterthought.
The lady who really catches my eye is wearing a pinstriped, emerald green suit. It could almost be tailored pajamas it looks so comfortable, but with her gorgeous grey hair and silver accessories, it doesn’t look out of place in this classy London establishment.
These are women who clearly find pleasure in dressing and know exactly what suits them. I get the distinct impression they dress to please themselves.
They understand that their closets are where they get to make a daily decision about who they want to be. Regardless of whether you wear a dress and heels, everyday, or prefer your favorite jeans and a simple shirt, we all have to get dressed. To me, that’s often the one chance I get to enjoy a few sacred moments each morning before my day begins.
Why not get dressed with care and in a way that expresses who you really are?
Whilst I love ease and comfort and could easily spend the entire day in my pajamas, getting dressed does something to me. It prepares me for what the day will bring, and it feels like I’m making a conscious decision to be the best version of myself.
A lot of women I’ve met, lately, seem to disregard the importance of taking time to get dressed and wearing clothes they love. Caring for your appearance seems to be regarded as a frivolous pursuit, and yet, I see it as so much more than that. It’s got nothing to do with fashion or owning a closet crammed with clothes. It’s about setting an example; it’s about living life with purpose.
I want to be remembered for being compassionate and kind and so many other good things, but I also want to be remembered as someone who demonstrated exquisite self-care; that I wasn’t afraid to choose who I want to be in this life.
I’d love to believe that someday, I could leave a positive and lasting impression on someone younger than me. That I demonstrated the power of ‘”Just be yourself” because I wasn’t afraid to express who I am through what I wear. Sure, in the big scheme of things clothes don’t matter, but the way they make us feel? That matters a lot.