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I did it. I chased my lion. My two friends and I just returned from a trip to Uganda where we led women’s conferences in two remote communities. Instead of being confronted with a giant, I found a lamb, in an impoverished country filled with women who have so little, but who are rich in spirit.

My life will never be the same.

The women of northern Uganda possess inner strength and faith unlike any other women I know. Many were raped and beaten during the war, and many lost their husbands to Kony’s horrific murders, HIV or malaria. Many never had husbands, but were left behind by men who refused to commit to a pregnant partner.

The women live in small clusters of four to six mud huts, barely 15 feet in diameter, and sleep on thin mats on dirt floors. Many are raising several children of their own plus others orphaned when their mothers died from diseases. They don’t have running water; they don’t have electricity, and they don’t have closets full of clothing. They depend on subsistence farming, and the recent drought has led to poor crops and a dire lack of food. One of my friends taught the women of Pader how to make jewelry out of paper beads, which has been providing income for over 75 families for the last three years.

We cannot begin to fathom what these women have been through, but we can learn so much from their perseverance and generous spirits.

Both of our Ugandan hosts wanted these women to understand their innate value, how to overcome their strong negative beliefs and find new hope in the midst of their seemingly impossible circumstances. With my well-planned agenda and carefully scripted presentation, I set out to impart the wisdom I had gained from coaching American women.

On our first morning we arrived at Pader Community Church. The women were already inside singing and dancing with unabashed joy. They were praising God with their whole bodies, not caring what anyone thought about their voices or their moves. Several women on the stage delighted us with “line dances,” coordinating their steps as they sang at the top of their lungs. Deep down, I wished we would worship like that at home, throwing caution and pride to the wind to express our deepest gratitude to our Creator who gives us hope.

Throughout those first two days, I heard stories of shame, fear and bitterness. I shared ways to unload their heavy burdens and guided them through exercises to discover their God-designed calling. Yes, even in the most poverty-stricken places, every person has a unique purpose that is essential to the world. As the women opened up the second day, it was clear they were on the road to healing, with visions of why they were created and how to honor God with their gifts. My scripted plan became fluid, as I responded with a supernatural guidance that gave me words beyond what I could have written in advance.

What I experienced was a personal transformation beyond what I expected.

After we concluded, a woman named Santa approached me with a huge smile and a big hug. Through an interpreter, she expressed her gratitude for all I had shared, and for the renewed hope she was feeling. I asked if we could take a photo together, and suggested we go outside where it was lighter. Santa took me by the hand and led me across the dirt road to her hut, where she rolled out a grass mat and invited me in. We sat together for our “photo shoot,” surrounded by her children and the orphans she is raising. Santa was exceedingly gracious and her heart was full, and I knew that even if she was the only person I influenced, it was worth all the effort.

What can we learn from Santa and the women of Pader?

  • Your attitude is your choice. Even in the worst circumstances, there is always something to be grateful for.
  • Women need one another. If you don’t have a supportive family, create one that is tight-knit and always there when you need them.
  • Above all, love one another. Give someone a hug, a smile, or a kind word. You never know what is going on in her life. You may be the only kind person she encounters all day.
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Susan is passionate about helping women become stronger and more vibrant by helping them define what’s truly important in life. Like all of our Contributing Writers, Susan has found herself at a major crossroads. Her site was one of the top five resources for women over 50, but she felt it wasn’t enough. She now supports women—on a deeper level—and 1010 Park Place is excited to host Susan Tolles’ Q&A’s. She will answer your questions about integrating your life with your desires. Susan doesn’t do fluff. She digs deep. Want to create a legacy that goes beyond material possessions? Ask Susan! Susan can also be found at


  1. Susan, what a beautiful post and what an incredible journey you’ve been on. Thank you for sharing this with us, I’m moved by your words and the obvious impact your time in Uganda has had on you. Esther xx

    • Thank you, Esther. It certainly was a life-changing experience! I think of these women first thing every morning, and continue to pray that their needs will be met. I know I am there to RESTORE, not RESCUE, but natrually I want to do it all! I will do my part faithfully and well, while scouting for others who will fill in the gaps.

  2. Most of us have never seen this kind of poverty and unthinkable abuse. We can’t imagine what these women have endured and yet, they still have the capacity for great joy and giving to one another and to you. What a role model you were for them. In their eyes you are an answer to a prayer. They will never forget you, and this very minute they are following through on what you taught them. All of you are true examples of God’s strength and love. You have my undying admiration and support. Love, Brenda

  3. Thank you, Brenda! These precious women are on my mind and in my heart constantly. Their hope and joy in the midst of such hard circumstances taught me so much. Of course, they want me to return ASAP! And so do I. But I will wait on God’s timing, trusting His plan for their restoration. I am grateful for your support and encouragement!

  4. The world need to know on how my life was helped by this great man i got contact of through a friend,but little was i suprised as all situations have not been like this and its always going the other way round in the sense that i pay and my job would not be done,just had to put in the last faith by the strenght of the lord but was not disappointed as helped me and got proof of my cheating ex and now i really need to thank him,also if you have any type of situation like this,contact him in his email that i wrote above or text him on his phone number which is +15402277725.

  5. Praising the Lord that He prepared and raised you up to serve these ladies and further His kingdom. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could worship that freely in America?! What joy! A friend does medical missions in Uganda through and you might be interested in contacting her (Sue}. Godspeed!

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