Last week I shared the first post in this two-part series: “8 Ways To Take Charge of Your Life.” If you haven’t read the first installment, you can click here to read it.
Here’s part two:
- Be aware of the stories you tell yourself
It’s easy to fall into negative thought patterns. Your inner voice says, “I could never do that,” “I’m too old,” or “I’m not smart enough,” and other unhelpful tales. Rather than listening to that voice, it is possible to write a new story that you repeat to yourself instead.
By continually feeding your brain with positive words, you can change the way you think and feel about yourself.
Write out a positive affirmation to repeat when your negative voice pipes up. Reinforce this positive way of thinking with a daily journaling practice. Write out what you want to do, the person you need to be to do it and that you believe in yourself. Eventually those words will become your reality.
- Ask for help
If you’re putting off a goal or a dream because you don’t know how to start, or you’re unsure of how to do something, ask for help. While Google, YouTube, blogs and books, even taking classes, are fantastic ways to learn, sometimes trying to figure things out on your own ends up creating more confusion. Instead:
- Find other people who are doing what you want to do, and ask them for guidance. Be prepared to offer something in return. Volunteer your time, suggest a skill swap, or offer to take them somewhere lovely for lunch! Be clear about what you’re asking for; that you’re not expecting their time or advice for free. Most people are delighted to share their knowledge when the request is made thoughtfully.
- Pay someone else to do what you can’t or don’t want to do. You don’t have to know how to do everything. This does mean spending money, but if you do have the means available to pay for a personal trainer – versus watching 40 hours of exercise videos, which aren’t getting the results you want – that’s money well spent. I apply this principle to DIY jobs my husband avoids. It’s not only your time that’s precious, so is your sanity.
- Failures are lessons
I’ve eliminated the word failure from my vocabulary. I suggest you do the same. So it didn’t work out… Did you learn something from the experience? Well then, it’s not a failure at all. Fear of failure is a major barrier that prevents many people from living the lives they desire. It’s impossible to go through life without experiencing failure, or if you are, then maybe you’re living so carefully that you’re not really living at all.
I’ve excelled at failing at certain stages of my life and whilst I’m not particularly proud of those failures, reframing them in the context of lessons learnt has helped me to grow. I also understand how to avoid making the same mistakes again.
- Schedule time for self-care
None of any of these tips will make a difference if you’re tired, run-down, overworked or stressed-out. What if you do one thing that puts your self-care on the agenda? For me, scheduling early nights is a game-changer, because getting adequate sleep also has a positive ripple effect on the rest of my life.
I hope some of these eight suggestions have resonated with you and help you take your life in your hands and take charge.
Any suggestions you’d like to add? I’d love to know!