— Relationships —



Did I tell you I had my first date since James died? I met him at a bus stop. LOL! Weird, right? It was almost midnight, and I was waiting for the airport shuttle to take me to my car. I’d been to New York where I was in a commercial, and he was returning from surfing in Costa Rica. He was about my age, tall and nice looking. We struck up a conversation. He has a house in Costa Rica and goes once a month to surf. I also learned where he went to high school.

Can you believe I gave him my phone number?

My friends have been so protective! My sweet friend, Pat, has a high school yearbook the year this guy graduated and sent me several pics: Senior class photo, playing football and one of the guy wearing a suit and holding a microphone. He was voted “Friendliest Senior Boy.” What a cutie! Then there’s my friend, Jim, whose first question was “He doesn’t know where you live does he?” followed by “Where are you meeting him?” and “What time?”

Two minutes into our evening, I knew there would be no “magic moments.” For starters he talked nonstop, so how could one develop? Secondly he injects himself with testosterone to keep up with the young surfer dudes. At his age I knew those giant biceps were suspect… BTW, he didn’t talk nonstop and was wearing a long sleeve shirt at the bus stop, so I didn’t have any red flags about either of those. I did have a red flag the next morning when he texted me, “Don’t tell anyone but I just rolled out of bed.” It was almost noon… He was very upfront about a possible sexual relationship: “Sex would be nice, or we can just cuddle… “ Since he kept talking, I didn’t have to respond. I haven’t heard back from him, so I guess I’m not his type either. He probably thinks I don’t have much to say.

Today my friend, Daniel, pitched me on the advantages of match.com. He wants me to find someone so I won’t be alone. Awe! My friends are the best. While I’m not looking for anyone, I think I have a crush on the man in the Ford Focus commercial. What a great laugh!

He’s an older man who’s having fun showing off his car’s technology to a younger woman, perhaps a daughter or granddaughter. The car backs into his parking spot, all by itself, and he’s so cute about it. He makes me smile! In fact, everything about this commercial makes me smile, especially the music.

Remember Ben E. King and the Drifters’s, “This Magic Moment?” The Ford Focus version of this song is dynamite, recorded by throaty, sexy, Rachel Price and the Lake Street Dive. Not only did I buy the song, but I watched all of their YouTube videos. I’m their new number one fan! One of the comments on YouTube about them got it right: “To every single talentless hack famous for no reason… This is how it’s done. Now go to your room and practice until you have something worth performing.” Magic Moments, indeed.

Love, Brenda


  • Hilda Smith July 1, 2017 at 3:02 am

    Well at least you have a good story to tell… Brenda Ray Coffeexx

    • 1010ParkPlace July 1, 2017 at 10:22 am

      LOL! You’re right about that, Hilda! xoxox, Brenda

  • Jen July 1, 2017 at 6:02 am

    Too bad he was a bit of a dud but good for you for trying new things! You are terrific at making your own magic moments and I’m sure have many adventures ahead of you! I’m glad we get to be along for the ride. XO

    • 1010ParkPlace July 1, 2017 at 10:23 am

      Thanks for coming with me, Jen, and being a part of it! Hope you’re recuperating well. xoxox, Brenda

  • Donna O'Klock July 1, 2017 at 6:44 am

    At least it was a great story! Keep holding out for a man like the guy in the commercial – that joy and pleasure – it will come!

    • 1010ParkPlace July 1, 2017 at 10:24 am

      Even if it doesn’t come, I’m good with that. I have puppies and a website to run! xoxox, Brenda

  • Joyce Sullivan July 1, 2017 at 7:12 am

    Totally adore and hang on your every storytelling-word! Thank you for sharing your amazing self with us all

    • 1010ParkPlace July 1, 2017 at 10:25 am

      I love when you stop by! Thank you, Joyce! xoxox

  • Rena July 1, 2017 at 8:19 am

    This one might not have worked but there is someone out there to keep you company but if not you have terrific friends!

    • 1010ParkPlace July 1, 2017 at 10:27 am

      You’re right about that, Rena! I’ve always had great friends! In fact, I have every friend–but two–I’ve ever made. How lucky am I? xoxox, Brenda

  • Dr. Margaret Rutherford July 1, 2017 at 8:24 am

    I hope the dinner was delicious at least, Brenda. Good for you for being a bit adventuresome and feeling ready to move ahead. And there’s no substitute for awesome friends, is there?

    • 1010ParkPlace July 1, 2017 at 10:29 am

      When it came time to pay for dinner, he opened his wallet and said, “I imagine a liberated woman like yourself would like to pay for dinner, but I’ll go ahead and pay.” Was he waiting for me to pull out my credit card? LOL!

  • Sue Burpee July 1, 2017 at 9:04 am

    Wow… I can’t believe he said “Sex would be nice or we could just cuddle.” I hope you didn’t choke on your dinner when he said that. I think I might have excused my self for a visit to the ladies room and made my escape:) Good for you for getting out there, though. Not sure how I would be if I had to do the dating thing at age 61.

    • 1010ParkPlace July 1, 2017 at 10:31 am

      I have a couple of years on you, Sue, and I’m not sure I want to try that again. He went the men’s room three times! Prostate problem? Steroid problems? Don’t want to think about that one! Thanks for stopping by, Brenda

  • Barbara July 1, 2017 at 10:17 am

    As the saying goes…you don’t know until you try. And, no one could ever accuse you of being ‘shy’, Brenda. That’s what I love about you!

    • 1010ParkPlace July 2, 2017 at 7:54 am

      You’re sweet. Thank you! xoxox, Brenda

  • Jamie Forbes July 1, 2017 at 11:13 am

    Looking forward to hearing about all of your future dates!

    • 1010ParkPlace July 2, 2017 at 7:55 am

      LOL! That’s assuming there are any, Jamie, but thanks! Brenda

  • shelley July 1, 2017 at 11:38 am

    The guy in the commercial appeals to me too! And I wish MY car would park itself.

    • 1010ParkPlace July 2, 2017 at 7:56 am

      Isn’t that slick technology? I can’t imagine the sky filled with millions of drones delivering packages, but a car that parks itself? You bet! Thanks, Shelley. Brenda

  • Pat July 1, 2017 at 12:19 pm

    Cute story, Brenda. This gave me a real chuckle today. Glad you passed on surfer dude.

    • 1010ParkPlace July 2, 2017 at 7:57 am

      You’re sweet:) I’m past being interested in “dudes.” xoxox, Brenda

  • Doreen McGettigan July 1, 2017 at 1:36 pm

    I’m laughing and smiling. So sorry he wasn’t the one but so proud of you for making that first step.
    I met my husband on Match 12 years ago (story coming) after 11 months of not kissing frogs and the funniest inbox photos.
    Have fun and stay positive. If their is someone out there for you he will find you.

  • 1010ParkPlace July 2, 2017 at 8:00 am

    Oh, goodie! I want to know how you met… Looking forward to it. xoxox, Brenda

  • Mamavalveeta03 July 3, 2017 at 1:06 pm

    Whatever you do, don’t “settle”!!! You deserve the best. I know you’ve got an open heart and mind, but I’m so glad you trusted your intuition with this one! (Well, let’s admit it: It was in your face, so how could you miss it?!? 🙂 )

    • 1010ParkPlace July 3, 2017 at 7:31 pm

      Great advice, Val, and I agree with you. I’d rather be here with just my dogs than to “settle… ” I know several women who’ve been desperate to find a mate and are miserable because they settled but don’t feel like they have the luxury of letting go. How sad. xoxox, Brenda

  • Esther Zimmer July 3, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    Well, it made for a great story, Brenda! Thanks for sharing it with us! Essie xx

    • 1010ParkPlace July 3, 2017 at 7:34 pm

      I think you can turn anything into a great story! How’s your summer, Essie? xoxox, Brenda

  • tikaa July 3, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    I had to watch the video after reading your post. To cute and yes it does sound like the man in the video might be a better catch than bus stop dude.

    • Brenda Coffee July 4, 2017 at 9:50 am

      At first blush, bus stop guy had everything going for him, but then so does potato salad that’s been left in the heat too long! Thanks, Tikaa! Brenda

  • Haralee July 4, 2017 at 1:44 pm

    Good for you for going for it even though bus stop guy was a dud! It makes a great story. I also am attracted to the Ford Focus not because of the car!!!

    • 1010ParkPlace July 5, 2017 at 12:31 pm

      Hi Haralee! Lots of frogs, right? Why are you attracted to the Ford Focus? Is it the commercial you like? xoxox, Brenda

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