Do you know how to say “no?” If you’re like most women, you say “yes” way too often out of guilt, obligation or filling your life with people and projects that don’t align with your purpose. Instead of finding joy and meaning in your days, you experience resentment and anger. Instead of having time to do the things you love, your calendar’s filled with activities that drain you.
Setting healthy boundaries is crucial to living a purpose-filled life. Defining yourself with a distinct “outline” provides protection from outside forces that draw you away from your calling. Blurred boundaries create confusion about who you are and what you’re supposed to be doing.
To flourish, you must draw physical, emotional and spiritual boundaries in your life, leaving behind the people and activities that threaten to suffocate your brilliance, and saying “no more” to memories that drag you down.
I promise the more you practice saying “no,” the easier it gets. Think of it in these terms.
- Say “no” more often to things that don’t “light your fire,” leaves open space for things you want to do. You’ll feel more enthusiastic, energetic and joyful in the activities you choose to do.
- When you say yes to something you really don’t want to do, you’re stealing the opportunity from someone who really wants to say yes. Think of it as a gift: When you say no, you’re gifting that activity/responsibility to the person who will receive joy from doing it, plus she’ll likely do a better job because it’s supporting her purpose and passions.
How do you say “no” gracefully?
- No, that doesn’t work well for me right now.
- No, I just don’t have time in my schedule to take on anything new, but I know someone who might be a great choice.
- No, I’d love to spend time chatting with you now, but I can’t give you my full attention. Let’s reschedule for a better time.
- No, I am laser-focused on my own goals right now, and to get them accomplished, I need to stay on track.
- I appreciate the consideration, but it doesn’t fit with my schedule.
- Or, just NO. No is a complete sentence! No excuses required.
What do you need to say no to? Start practicing today, and experience the freedom one simple word brings to your life.