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The Importance of Great Girlfriends: Meryl Streep, Rita Wilson, Mary Kay Place and Ali Wentworth in "It's Complicated."

When I was married I leaned on my husband for friendship and support and asked his opinion on almost everything whether it was a problem with the kids, or work. I went to him first for his input. My girlfriends were always there and important but not the ones I went to first or listened to the most. Then I got divorced. What a change for me! For awhile, I would call my ex-husband and ask him for his opinion on things like changing the tires or what good movies were playing.

I had a hard time letting go and finding me.

Slowly I realized I needed to make my own way and find friends who had my best interest. I still spoke to girlfriends who lived far away–they were always there for me–but I needed women who lived where I lived. After I divorced, I moved to Denver and stayed with my oldest son for 6 weeks while I got on my feet. Would you believe I then moved to a town where I didn’t know anyone?

I moved into my wonderful little house on a warm sunny day. It was December 1st, and all was well. The next morning I woke up to the threat of a huge snow storm that would last for days. My car wasn’t ready for snow and had rear wheel drive; a huge “no-no” if you want to be safe, driving in Colorado. I survived the snow storm, lonely but safe. I was grateful for the little things.

I remember feeling so alone and isolated, wondering what I had done? A smile from the mail lady made my day! I started to venture out, looking for what I wanted to do. I found a church and went by myself; something I had never done before. I always had kids or a husband who went with me. Now the kids were grown, and the husband was gone. I prayed for a new best girlfriend. It seemed like a stretch, and it didn’t happen immediately. I waited for months and stayed on the lookout. Soon, God gave me the women who have become my closest friends. I also had one of my “before divorce” girlfriends move to my town, and she’s been a huge blessing and support for me.

At some point, I decided to start a girls night, once a month at my house. We met at Christmas time, gathering to make cookies. It was so much fun, that we decided to meet once a month and do a craft like painting. So many great things have come out of those gatherings! I am realizing the wonderful gift of female friendship. They can hear any problem, laugh with me and share my pain. They bring healthy encouragement to my life, and I am forever grateful.

If you feel lonely, ask for a friend and hopefully, soon, you will realize that women friends rock!

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  1. I have great girlfriends, but like you, I think I need to start having them gather at my house. Thank you so much for the reminder. xoxo, Brenda

  2. Amen! The older we get, the more we need girlfriends who love us unconditionally and who will always be there for us, no matter what. Bravo to you for not letting a major life shift keep you isolated! There are so many women who need one another, so don’t be afraid to reach out to them! Thanks for the reminder.

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