Good friends are like portals to the past and the hands that help move us into the future. In the last week I’ve gotten together with a number of good friends. One I don’t see often, but when we do, we pick up as though one of us just stepped out of the room for a few minutes.
No “Tell me what you’ve been up to?” We talk in shorthand and enter the conversation in midstream.
In the face of the disaster in my home state of Texas, I was hesitant to post about my great trip. I reflected on what made it so wonderful, and it wasn’t the places we’ve visited or the great food we enjoyed…
It was the people, both cherished friends and new friends, even a complete stranger, that made this trip as memorable as it has been!
The Importance of Great Girlfriends: Meryl Streep, Rita Wilson, Mary Kay Place and Ali Wentworth in "It's Complicated."
When I was married I leaned on my husband for friendship and support and asked his opinion on almost everything whether it was a problem with the kids, or work. I went to him first for his input. My girlfriends were always there and important but not the ones I went to first or listened to the most. Then I got divorced. What a change for me! For awhile, I would call my ex-husband and ask him for his opinion on things like changing the tires or what good movies were playing.
I had a hard time letting go and finding me.
Recently a friend told me that she was having an affair. Not long after that, another friend, after a few too many glasses of wine, told me she was living in an emotional and financial house of cards, just waiting for her life to implode. Over and above the immediate concern I had, for my friends, was the feeling of discord and awkwardness that permeated my psyche. I felt like I was privy to too much information and could no longer be objectively neutral in their presence. The problem was (is,) I am equally attached to both friends AND their spouses, and feel vested in the happiness and success of both parties. How do you have a meaningful, or even a superficial conversation with someone when you know a deep secret about them? Continue Reading
We’re not quite to the end yet, but this year has been life-changing. Learning a simpler, more meaningful way to live is starting to feel how I imagined it would. And whilst there’s still much to do, more de-cluttering and much more personal exploration ahead, I feel like I’ve made good progress. Continue Reading