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Speeding Up Change


Q – How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb?
A – Just one. But it takes a long time, and the light bulb has to want to change.

I’ve been in the throes of some big external changes. Things are settling down, and I’m settling in, but there are other changes I still seek… internal ones. And I want the results to come quicker than they seem to be coming. I was thinking about all of this in the shower this morning (proven to be one of the best places to think) and a light bulb went off in my head.

WHAT specifically about the external changes I’ve accomplished can I apply to speed up the internal changes I want to make?

  1. Change “HAVE TO” to “WANT TO.”  We don’t have to do anything other than pay taxes and die. It’s the pressure we place on ourselves that often makes things difficult. Focus on WHY you want to make this change and how you will FEEL when you make it.
  2. Remind yourself that it’s not “IF” it’s “WHEN.”
  3. Change “I WANT TO” to “I AM.”  Rather than saying, “I want to…”  or “I wish I…” say “I am.” There is a lot of power in those two words… I AM.
  4. Make SMALL CHANGES, and let yourself WIN. For example, rather than setting a weight loss goal for a BIG change,  start with just five pounds. Then five more, and five more.
  5. MEASURE any changes you want to make by the WEEK. Know the steps you will take DAILY. Stay present and savor every day along the way.
  6. Remember: if anybody else CAN DO this, or has done this, so can YOU.




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Donna O’Klock spent 35 years in the beauty business, talking, teaching, and learning. These days, she’d “rather write than talk. It’s better that way because I can edit.” She writes two blogs, and, and is the author of  Sick and Tired & Sexy: Living Beautifully with Chronic Illness.

Austin, Texas, has been her home since 1978, but she and her fiancé have downsized and are traveling the country in their RV.

6 thoughts on “Speeding Up Change”

    • Thank you, Brenda! The trick seems to have been doing things in small, daily increments, for me.
      Keeps “overwhelm” to a minimum. And life is so much nicer that way!
      XO Donna

  1. Donna has the knack of writing as if you are sitting across a table with her and enjoying a second cup of coffee. Such good advice.

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