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Sick and Tired… & Sexy

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I give this advice in my new book, Sick and Tired & Sexy: Living Beautifully with Chronic Illness: “Never go out of the house when you aren’t presentable.” That doesn’t mean dressed to the nines–I’m a blue jean girl, after all–but it does mean hair brushed, sunscreen on, eyebrows filled in and a touch of mascara and lipgloss. What are we talking here, five minutes? And yet, there are days when I… just…can’t. I feel like there’s not enough air in the air. What’s a woman to do? Well, for most of you, you’d probably be ill if you felt like this, so the thing to do would be call in sick and crawl back in bed, knowing you’ll feel better tomorrow.

If, like me, you are one of the approximately 65-million women who live with chronic illnesses, you look at your schedule and prioritize, apologize, and reschedule.

I do what I can online, where I can safely look like the wreck of The Hesperus. Afterwards, I take a few minutes to pray/meditate, then nap. I won’t have more energy, but I usually have a better attitude, which I attribute to the minutes spent in mindfulness rather than the ones spent sleeping.

I’ve heard it said that, “Prayer is us talking to God. Meditation is us listening for an answer.” It seems imperative to have quiet time to hear the answers, but our culture is one of busyness. I remember my Mom’s admonishments, “Do you always have to be going somewhere and doing something? Can’t you just sit still and be quiet?”

My answer was always “No,” until I became ill, and even that didn’t slow me down for almost seven more years. When it caught up to me, it brought me to a screeching halt. Feeling like Humpty Dumpty after his great fall, I was determined to figure out how to put myself back together again.  And that healing is the topic of my book, Sick and Tired… & Sexy: Living Beautifully with Chronic Illness.

I wrote it, hoping it would be helpful for other women living with chronic illness, or those who are newly diagnosed. I’m honored women have told me it’s good advice for any woman. Here’s the link to Amazon. Just look at that gorgeous cover!




  • Charlesñjoycee Silverman October 5, 2016 at 7:26 am

    Thank you, I’ve lived with pain behind the smile for to many years to count. Never give up, a cure maybe around the corner, and remember there are always blessings.

    • Donna O'Klock October 5, 2016 at 10:16 am

      I count on those blessings – like your kind comment. Thank you!
      And I take advantage of all the ways that exist to make me feel better on this journey…
      Wishing you comfort,

  • Jen Lawrence October 5, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    Congratulations on the book! That is a gorgeous cover. I’ve not lived with chronic illness but will certainly recommend this book to anyone going through that particular season in life. Your words will be an inspiration to many. xo

    • Donna O'Klock October 6, 2016 at 9:40 am

      Thank you, Jen, I appreciate that.
      I’ve been getting surprising feedback that it’s also a good book for women who aren’t I’ll…
      I cover everything from yoga, to meditation, visualization, and creating structure to live your best life.

  • 1010ParkPlace October 5, 2016 at 8:12 pm

    Two years of constant cancer surgeries and chemo was perhaps the most “chronic” illness I’ve dealt with, and it was awful. I can’t imagine what it’s been like for you to be sapped of energy and not feel well enough to do much of anything… for years. Brava on your book! I hope you reach lots of people who need to connect with someone who’s walked that road. xoxox, Brenda

  • Donna O'Klock October 6, 2016 at 9:44 am

    I’m so sorry you went through that, Brenda… I’ll bet you have some great insights to offer from your experience.
    Thank you for your support! I also hope it reaches everyone who is wondering, “What the heck do I do now??”

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