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Thirty years ago the road to Batopilas, Mexico, was a real life rollercoaster gone off the rails. Nestled at the bottom of Copper Canyon and framed by the Sierra Madre Mountains, Batopilas began in 1708, as a remote silver mining village. Complete with legendary silver barons, lost Jesuit gold mines, bandits, Indian revolts, the secluded Tarahumaras and a serial killer priest… I had to go.

Ten heart-stopping hours later, including a side trip to convince a woman to come back from the dead, we arrived.

A friend, who’d accompanied my first husband and I on several of our lost Mayan ruin expeditions, went with me. We traveled to El Paso, Texas, then to Chihuahua, Mexico, where we caught the train that took us through the desert, then chugged its way into the towering Sierra Madres. We got off the train in Creel and found Pedro Estrada Perez and his three-door, gold Chrysler, who agreed to take us the 80 miles down into the canyon to Batopilas.

The first 15 miles of our trip was on a narrow paved road. Since recent rains had triggered rockslides at every turn, it was slow going, but the mountain scenery was breathtaking. A paintbox of delicate flowers sprang from the rocks and blooming foxglove, lavender and orange opium poppies were everywhere.


Numerous times–when the outer wheels were close to hanging over the edge of the cliff and plunging the car 8,000 feet to the canyon floor below–Pedro made us get out while he and the car crept along a few inches at a time. Talk about STRESSFUL! At one point the Chrysler’s muffler clattered to the ground and rolled off the cliff in a cloud of dust. My friend and I walked toward the edge and listened as it banged its way down the mountain. 

It was then Pedro informed us the road would get very dangerous.

At that point we’d been on the road for five hours. Our surroundings were one of the most seductively inhospitable places I’ve ever been. As the road twisted and turned, we got glimpses of the canyon floor and the town of Batopilas, which was the reason I’d come. I wanted to see the church where, at one time, the priest had supposedly killed the women from the village and buried their bodies under the church floor. Now, I wonder… What is it with me and serial killers?


Before we began our journey, Pedro told us he needed to make a stop along the way to see a friend. His friend was a Tarahumara Indian, a small, wiry man with skin the color of dark mahogany and the texture of dried beef. I don’t know about now, but 30 years ago the Tarahumara were seldom seen by outsiders, so we were excited to go. The Tarahumara’s fierce ancestors had resisted Spanish conquistadors and Jesuit missionaries, and their ability to run long distances was legendary.

Pedro followed his Tarahumara friend into a cave in the side of the mountain and motioned for us to follow him, assuring us it would be alright. I soon discovered the Tarahumara have a way of looking through you, like you’re not there.

The cave was about 20 feet long by 10 feet deep. The mouth of the cave was exposed to the elements but partially enclosed by a log fence. Inside were two women, a small baby, two small children and a teenage girl. The women wore colorful scarves on their heads and long multicolored skirts. A crude wooden table was their only piece of furniture. A faded, aqua plastic bag and a page from a magazine, depicting Jesus, were stuck in cracks in the cave wall with sticks.

Pedro and the Tarahumara knelt down beside a fire and began a lively conversation in a language that didn’t sound like Spanish. The Tarahumara squatted with his legs spread far apart, gesturing wildly and jumping up and down on the balls of his feet. In his excitement, his genitals had fallen out of his pants—which were made to be somewhat open in the front—and were flopping up and down with each movement.

I tried not to gape, but I felt a curious mixture of wonderment and embarrassment.

Feeling very out of place, I knelt down to play with a small puppy as Pedro and his friend crouched around the fire. In a little while, Pedro and his friend stood up, went outside and said their goodbyes. As Pedro and my friend started their climb toward the car, I lingered a moment, taking in my surroundings before this other world experience vanished forever. I took one last look at the Tarahumara man. Surprisingly he returned my gaze and held it.

Once inside the car, my friend and I were full of questions. Pedro had known the Tarahumara man since they were children, when Pedro had accompanied his father on trips to Batopilas to trade and transport supplies. When Pedro had stopped to see his friend a month before, the Tarahumara had asked him a favor. Pedro declined. Our stop was to see how the man had fared without Pedro’s help.

The Tarahumara believe we will ourselves to die. The Tarahumara man had found his mother or sister—I’m not sure which—dead in the cornfield and had chastized her to come back to life. How dare she leave him to tend the crops! His job was to take the animals up and down the mountain every day to graze. The crops were her job. She had ignored his pleas to return.

So she would know how unhappy he was with her decision, he’d tied her body behind a donkey and drug her up the mountainside to another cave where he’d left her. The Tarahumara had wanted Pedro to go with him to confront her. He feared she would be angry and Pedro’s presence might calm her down. Of course Pedro knew what they would find, so he didn’t go. We had stopped to find out what had happened.

The man, in his wild gestures in front of the fire, was telling Pedro she hadn’t changed her mind. She was still dead.

Once again the Tarahumara had tied her body to the back of his donkey, drug her back down the mountain and returned her to the cornfield where he’d found her, vowing never to speak to her again.  


Pedro and my friend and I climbed back into the three-door, gold Chrysler, and ten hours after we’d gotten off the train, we arrived in Batopilas. I soon learned the church I came to see was another four miles away.

Because of the rough road, my friend’s already bad back was in pain; his humor was gone, and he was going to stretch out, and Pedro had parked himself in the nearest bar and wasn’t going anywhere until he drove us back in the morning. With only a couple of hours of daylight left, I had to find another means of transportation to take me to the church and return me to Batopilas. We’d arrived at the bottom of the canyon… How hard could it be to go another four miles? LOL! LOL! LOL!

PS: This is longer than my usual 500 word posts, and you can’t imagine what I deleted to get it down to this size. Next week I’m posting Part 2 of ONE OF MY MORE BIZARRE SUMMER VACATIONS, so stop back by and read it. There’s more!

Love, Brenda


  • Jeanette June 23, 2018 at 11:59 am

    I can’t wait for Part 2. Totally engrossed. xx

    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:29 pm

      Oh good! I’m glad you enjoyed it, Jeanette! Thanks so much for reading and letting me know. Brenda

  • Barbara Bergin June 23, 2018 at 12:20 pm

    What! What! I will you to tell the rest of that story NOW…or else!

    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:30 pm

      LOL!!! You’re funny Dr. Barbara!!! You’ll have to wait until this Saturday! xoxox, Brenda

  • Beckye June 23, 2018 at 2:46 pm

    You take the cake! Totally engrossed and can’t wait for part 2! You have the most amazing stories (and life!).

    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:33 pm

      Beckye, My first husband said when I got to be an old lady, I’d be glad I did all these things, and he was right. He didn’t tell me, however, that you get to the point where situations like this don’t phase you or scare you. It’s all I knew… And as it turned out, it’s not always been in my best interest, but I’m still here, which is utterly amazing! xoxox, Brenda

      • Beckye June 27, 2018 at 1:24 pm

        Utterly amazing is true! A sure sign that there is a God and that nothing can take our lives until our allotted time is up!

  • Sharon June 23, 2018 at 3:06 pm

    I would pay to read this story in full! You should write a book on your experiences and travels, complete with photos. The woman you photographed looks other-worldly, her gaze is mesmerizing. Can’t wait for the net installment!

    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:36 pm

      Thank you, Sharon! Instead of a lemonade stand, maybe this summer I should set up a table in my from yard with a sign that says, “INTERESTING, TRUE STORIES” and charge 50 cents a story. xoxo, Brenda

      • Beckye June 27, 2018 at 1:19 pm

        Girl, you could charge much more than 50 cents! Write that book!! I’m dying to read it already!

        • 1010ParkPlace June 27, 2018 at 1:52 pm

          Beckye… Still thinking about it… xoxox

  • Hilda Smith June 24, 2018 at 8:17 am


    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:37 pm

      Tune in, again, this Saturday! Thanks, Hilda!!

  • mh williams June 24, 2018 at 11:57 am

    Engaging post. This brings back memories for me. Back in the day I sold pit fired Tarahumara pots here in Scottsdale. A crazy man would go every 6 months to collect them. He always offered to take me there. So glad I didn’t take him up on it. LOL

    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:41 pm

      Were they pretty pots? Other than the outfits worn by the Tarahumara men, I saw not signs of creativity or pottery or much of anything. They were essentially “cave men/women.” Yes… You might have to be crazy to go there on a regular basis, especially if it was “back in the day.” For me, this trip was the late ’80’s, and I should have had adult supervision… Can’t believe my friend didn’t talk me out of going the next four miles by myself. Thanks for reading and commenting! Brenda

      • MH Williams June 27, 2018 at 10:09 am

        Primitive pots that were pit fired. Hand rubbed on the outside ,black interior. Colors were muted browns,tans charcoal. Very Southwestern

        • Brenda Coffee July 2, 2018 at 2:20 pm

          Pretty. That sounds like something the Tarahumara would do. The colors reflect their natural surroundings. Brenda

  • Diane June 25, 2018 at 10:10 am

    This is fabulous! I’m still breathless!

    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:42 pm

      Thank you, Diane! You can read Part 2 on Saturday! Brenda

  • Haralee June 25, 2018 at 10:59 am

    Wow! How interesting and intriguing and funny! I can’t wait until next week for part 2. It truly is a bizarre vacation. Great photos of curse too.

    • Brenda Coffee June 25, 2018 at 1:46 pm

      Thank you, Haralee! I’m so glad you liked my strange trip! I only have two photos of “part 2” of my story. That’s because it wasn’t appropriate to pull my camera out. The one I did take of the old church is hanging on the wall in my office. I took it with a panorama camera. It may be my favorite photo I’ve ever taken. I appreciate you, Haralee, and love seeing you here!! xoxo, Brenda

  • Bonnie K. Aldinger June 25, 2018 at 3:25 pm

    Just four more miles? What could go wrong?


    • 1010ParkPlace June 26, 2018 at 10:54 am

      LOL! I look back and wonder what made me think it was a good idea for me to go off, alone, in such a remote part of the world? I’m an adrenaline junkie and sometimes, that overrides common sense. Enjoyed reading about your sailing adventures on your blog! See you next week! Brenda

  • Mithra June 26, 2018 at 4:24 pm

    Looking forward to the next installment! In the meantime, did you take those photos?? Loved them!

    • 1010ParkPlace June 26, 2018 at 4:26 pm

      I did take these… 30 years ago. The best one is of the church. I used a panorama camera. It’s hanging on my office wall and a daily reminder of this trip. Thanks so much, Mithra! See you back here on Saturday for Part 2. xoxo, Brenda

  • Sally Leonard June 27, 2018 at 2:26 pm

    Fascinating!! Please tell us as many stories as you feel up to!!
    Have you thought of holding seminars in San Antonio—rather like readings? I’d gladly pay to attend such an event!!
    Your Insta friend from Houston,
    Sally Leonard

    • 1010ParkPlace June 27, 2018 at 3:11 pm

      Hi Sally, In the 90’s I was part of a writers’ institute in San Antonio and occasionally did readings at some of their events. It was a lot of fun, but I haven’t done any since then. If you’re a frequent reader of my blog, you may have gathered I’m thinking about writing a book in memoir form about my life. It’s such an all consuming thing to write a book. Once I get a big project behind me, I may think more seriously about it. I have stories that are too much for a blog. This is only the first time I’ve written something that has a sequel, if you will, and I’m not crazy about this format. I appreciate your support and that you reached out and shared this with me. It means a lot. It really does! Thank you, Brenda

  • Alana June 30, 2018 at 4:42 pm

    Pocessing a bad back myself, I wonder how your friend even survived as far as he got. Ouch! Ouch! (and if this is a small snippet of your adventures, your memoir would be a blast, if you ever write it.)

    • Brenda Coffee July 2, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      I, too, have a bad back. Thank goodness they weren’t out at the same time. He had no choice but to go to the end of the road, and when we got there, I understood he “was done.” xoxo, Brenda

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