Lack of sexual desire and/or orgasm in women can be more complicated than lack of erection in men. While men are genetically geared to be ready for action at a moment’s notice, women’s libido and ability to achieve orgasm are more closely linked to her emotional frame of mind.

Since it’s not uncommon for women to experience problems with desire as young as age 35, it’s important to be honest with your doctor, and yourself, and to think about any possible contributing factors such as:

• Inadequate Foreplay
• Antidepressants
• Drop in Hormones
• Underactive Thyroid
• Vaginal Dryness and/or Painful Intercourse

Sometimes we need to make time for self-care and make time for sex, whether it’s solo, or with our partner. As we age, what stimulates us mentally and physically can change. If you haven’t taken the time to “reassess your needs,” perhaps you should schedule some sexy time when you’re home, alone. If you don’t know what you want and need, you can’t direct your partner.

There are several things we should have learned by now, like how to make ourselves a priority; how to let go of things that no longer work for us, and how to ask for what we want. Prioritizing our sexual pleasure should be at the top of the list of things we do for ourselves.