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Did you know cold feet could make it harder for some women to orgasm? This tidbit is from Dr. Laura Berman, a highly regarded professor, researcher and sex therapist. The key to female arousal is deep relaxation and lack of anxiety, and you can hardly be relaxed if your feet are cold. For many women, even socks don’t warm up their feet.

Cold feet can be due to a number of chronic conditions. If you’ve had chemotherapy, you may have chemo-induced peripheral neuropathy, or nerve damage, that can result in a loss of sensation in the toes and fingertips, even to the point of numbness. Cold feet is also a common side effect. Other medical conditions like diabetes, alcoholism, traumatic injuries, infections, nutritional deficiencies and some medications, can also cause peripheral neuropathy and cold feet. If cold feet makes it harder for some women to orgasm, what do you do? Would you believe something as simple as a heating pad can help?


Keeping your feet wrapped in a heating pad during sex can ruin the mood, so try turning the heating pad on high and wrapping your feet until they’re nice and toasty, then throw it aside. It may take some of the spontaneity out of sex, but you may experience an easier time of orgasming.

Footwear made of leather has insulating properties that help keep our feet warm as well. Maybe we should just buy a pair of high-heeled, black leather boots that zip up the side. Now there’s a look most men would go for. Oh, honey…



  • look for the woman July 24, 2015 at 11:57 am

    Maybe that’s how I can get those burgundy, over the knee, suede boots! ;0 So practical…

    • 1010 Park Place August 21, 2015 at 7:24 am


  • Meredith Loughran July 24, 2015 at 12:48 pm

    Well I wasn’t expecting “cold feet” to actually mean cold feet. LOL

    • 1010 Park Place August 21, 2015 at 7:26 am

      Glad you didn’t see that coming. Wouldn’t want to be predictable! LOL!

  • 1010 Park Place August 21, 2015 at 7:25 am

    Lucky you. I’m not as fortunate.

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