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Early this morning I went for a run. With my headphones on I was enjoying the music and the feel of the run when I got a phone call from someone I work with. He wanted me to do something that would be good for my career but wouldn’t bring me peace. I told him I’d think about it and get back to him.As I turned the corner for home a white SUV pulled out from what, in the distance, looked like my street. I thought it might be my husband, heading for work. It would be a great time to run my dilemma by him for advice and support.

I focused on the car’s emblem on the front hood. I couldn’t read it from that far away, but I wanted it to be my husband’s car. I needed to talk through my problem with him before he left for the day.

As the car got closer I could see it wasn’t his car, and as it drove by I smelled cigarette smoke coming from the open window. How could I have mistaken it for my husband’s car? It wasn’t even the right brand of car, plus my husband doesn’t smoke.

I was reminded of how we feel about things from a distance: We want them to be right and from afar… They can look promising. 

You’re going to get “the right car,” “the right job,” “the right answer to our prayers.” But as we get closer, we can tell what is real from what isn’t “the right car.”

Sometimes problems need time for us to run towards them, focusing on what we know to “be right.” We need to wait for them to get closer because at some point, we’ll see if it’s right for us, and we’ll smell if the deal is right, or if it smells like smoke.

Focus on what you know to be right, today!

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Kim’s been on more than 500 magazine covers around the world; featured in six Sports Illustrated Swimsuit editions, and was the exclusive face of Revlon’s Ultima II. More importantly, she’s a genuine, thoughtful woman, and like many of us, Kim Alexis has redefined herself more than once. In her no-nonsense way, Kim will share her thoughts about life, health, empty nests, redefining this time of your life, and she’ll give us a glimpse of the behind-the-scenes life as one of the world’s most iconic supermodels. Kim can also be found at

12 thoughts on “FOCUS ON WHAT’S RIGHT FOR YOU”

  1. Very nice thought. When it comes to making the right decision, haste makes waste. Its best to take your time and run it by a trusted friend or your spouse. I really appreciate your illustration with the car. What seems “right” from a distance can turn out to be totally “wrong” later. Amazing how we can find valuable life lessons from an ordinary experience. Thanks for sharing that valuable life lesson.

  2. Kim, One of the things I’ve learned about you is you’re cautious and ask lots of questions. You don’t just jump into something, which is so very smart. Thanks for reminding us to look at all sides before we say yes. xoxox, Brenda

    • Brenda,
      I never thought I was a cautious person. I thought I was pretty spontaneous but it is good to know how others see us.

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