The relationship between men and women is often a mystery, but let’s face it, girlfriends! It’s worth it. Since men aren’t always the best at being sensitive and asking us what we want, what if we soften our feminist boundaries by being the better sex and being sensitive to what our special man wants? Don’t back off and say, “why can’t he take the initiative?” Instead, by making him feel special and loved, we’re acting in our own best interest. These 10 simple gestures will make for a more reciprocal mate.

1. He wants you to take the lead, whether it’s in bed, or deciding where you go for dinner.
2. He wants to feel appreciated, so remember to thank him when he does things for you.
3. He wants your encouragement and support.
4. He wants you to listen to him. Just listen. No criticism. No suggestions.
5. He wants to make you laugh, so laugh at his corny jokes. If you don’t, another woman will.
6. He wants you to call him by his name, not “Dad.”
7. He wants you to take his hand in the movies.
8. He wants to know you love him, so tell him!
9. He wants to know you think he’s still “got it.”
10. He wants to please you in bed, so show him how.