I am now officially a New Yorker. I have moved in, scoped out the neighborhood and bought groceries to stock my kitchen in an apartment that’s mine. Looking back at the last two weeks, I realize all of the friendship and fan support that’s gotten me to this point, and I am grateful and amazed at the love and generosity of them all.
When I last left off, I was filling you in on my life with a story about “letting it go.” That was weeks ago while I was still living in Colorado and boy, did I let stuff go.
Many of you read my Big Life Changes post last week. I’ve decided to come out of my hiding, step out in faith and move back to New York City, returning to the business I started in over 38 years ago. A business that turns over young girls at a fast rate.
How many of you have spent years waiting for something good to happen? How many of you are so used to disappointment that you look over your shoulder when good things happen, waiting to “duck” life’s circumstances?
"I'm Making Life Count." Kim Alexis
Many of you don’t know this, but I’ve been in hiding. I have tried to keep my personal life quiet and stay hidden while going through a divorce and finding out who the real Kim is and what she really wants in life. For too many years, I have been a people pleaser, doing what everyone else wants me to do from poses on the set; how to dress and wear my hair and make up, to putting my family first and me last.
1010ParkPlace’s tagline—Make Life Count—resonates with me.
Most of us know that herbs have health benefits, but in addition to flavoring our food, did you know spices can also enhance our health? Some of my favorite beneficial spices are oregano, cinnamon, mint, turmeric, rosemary, clove, and parsley. In addition to containing vitamins and minerals, they’re good sources of anti-oxidants. They even contain fiber, protein and healthy fats. That was a surprise to me!
Have a spicy day!
Kim Alexis early modeling photo.
“Here,” the photographer said. He slid my portfolio back across the table.
“Really,” I thought? He didn’t even look up. I broke my neck getting to this “go see,” learning new streets–in a city I didn’t know–taking hot subways to get here on time and this photographer doesn’t even look at me?
That’s what breaking into modeling was like when I first started that hot summer in New York City, 32 years ago.
The Importance of Great Girlfriends: Meryl Streep, Rita Wilson, Mary Kay Place and Ali Wentworth in "It's Complicated."
When I was married I leaned on my husband for friendship and support and asked his opinion on almost everything whether it was a problem with the kids, or work. I went to him first for his input. My girlfriends were always there and important but not the ones I went to first or listened to the most. Then I got divorced. What a change for me! For awhile, I would call my ex-husband and ask him for his opinion on things like changing the tires or what good movies were playing.
I had a hard time letting go and finding me.
Forgive me, but I’m writing this to vent a bit. Does anyone else feel like we’ve become too self-promoting? Everyone seems to be selling something! It’s impossible to watch television without more commercials than show. Our emails are burdened with promotions: news articles, doctor’s advice, “how to” sites… Almost everywhere we turn, someone is selling something, or they want to “SHARE” and want us to share in return. We are inundated with too much information, and it comes at a cost.
How did we slide into being such a self-absorbed country?
Kim Alexis, lunch in Cortona
On my recent trip to Italy, I took only a backpack. Knowing I would be walking for 30-minute stretches while I traveled to five different cities–Venice, Florence, Montepulciano, Siena and Rome–I kept the weight to about 20 pounds. Now that I’m home, I realize I should have been easier on myself because bringing less clothes and shoes made me feel denied and punished.
I went too far trying to “stay minimal,” and for the next trip, I’ll bring things that make me feel more at home, no matter where I am.
I am leaving for a three-week trip to Italy, traveling to five different cities, and I have decided to take up a challenge: To bring only a backpack and a purse! That means only taking the most necessary items with me. I am, literally, weighing every decision and let me tell you, I have been agonizing over what I can’t live without and what I have to let stay behind.
It is really challenging me by helping me define what I think I need to hang on to, to feel more secure.
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to carry a dark cloud with them, where ever they go? They walk into a room, and there’s an immediate feeling of yuck! The phrase, “sour puss” was meant for them. They tend to have more worry lines in their face and wear a permanent scowl. Then there are those who seem happy, no matter what the circumstance; people who walk into a room, and it brightens with goodness and purpose. Those are the people I gravitate toward.
Beauty is a characteristic of “how” a person makes you feel.