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What Makes a Woman Feel Beautiful?

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What makes a woman feel beautiful? Is it praise from others? I don’t think so. You can give a woman a new look–different than what she’s used to and out of her comfort zone–and you can tell her she’s beautiful all night, but she still won’t believe you!! So what makes a woman feel beautiful?

Some of us feel more beautiful by “doing” things to ourselves.

Many of us feel the need to modify what we have by tweaking, plucking and enhancing ourselves. Some women do this daily and take hours, getting ready, because they feel they have to change themselves in order to fit in. Others don’t care how they look. They may take a quick look in the mirror, maybe brush their teeth and comb their hair, then go out without another thought about their looks for the rest of the day. What makes us all so different? When do some of us decide we need to start changing, modifying and revamping ourselves?

The teenage years seem to be when girls start to become aware of how they look. I’ve seen beautiful, natural blondes decide to color their hair BLACK. Why do they think they need to change their color? Most women spend a lot of money, trying to get the same “purchased” hair color every six weeks. I know I do! Other women accept their gray and still look amazing. So is it the feedback we get from others, or the pressure from society or magazines that influence us? It’s probably all of the above.

When I was a teenager, I swam five and a-half hours a day, in the morning and after school. I didn’t spend a lot of time on my looks. I was lucky to get my thick hair dry in time for school. I didn’t worry about my looks, and didn’t really care, but I was still discovered at 18 and sent to New York to be a model. What changed? Nothing. I still looked the same when I didn’t have my hair and makeup done.

Once in New York, I started to feel the pressure to look good. I watched and listened to the best in the business and learned from their different opinions. I learned that even though one make up artist would make me up one way, another would make changes the very same day, for another shoot, and have a different opinion about what looked best on me. It made me realize I looked good a lot of different ways. I felt more comfortable trying new things and exploring new looks.

Do you think change can be a good thing? What if you venture out and try something new and different? Maybe it’s just a change in your lipstick color or something more drastic like cutting your hair. What if you change something about your looks and see if your friends and family comment, but more importantly, what if it makes you feel better about yourself?


  • Jen Lawrence April 13, 2016 at 8:26 am

    Great post, Kim. This message that we are not good enough as we are seems to start young and seems to be a global issue. I remember the pressure to be tanned in my teens and twenties. Everyone wanted California golden as a status symbol and I was Scandinavian pale. I remember travelling to southeast asia to the beaches and going into a drugstore looking for self-tanner (in the sun, I turn lobster red.) I tried to explain to the sales clerk that I wanted something to make me darker, which confused her. She kept handing me skin lighteners. When we finally figured out that I with pale skin wanted to look bronze and the local women wanted to look pasty like me, we both started to laugh hysterically. Here were are wanting only to look the opposite of whatever we were.

    • Kim Alexis May 11, 2016 at 5:05 pm

      Love your heart! xo

  • Rena April 13, 2016 at 12:57 pm

    Lots of alcohol and dim lighting makes me feel beautiful!

  • 1010 Park Place April 13, 2016 at 7:59 pm

    Sandy Linter suggested her stylist to me, so I knew he was great. I gave him permission to do whatever he wanted. He cut it very, very short. For the last year, it’s grown out, all the same length. I’ve enjoyed having a new style so different from anything I’ve worn before. xoxox, Brenda

  • Mamavalveeta03 May 1, 2016 at 7:03 pm

    I like to change-up little things all the time…bright lips/nude lips, just mascara/smokey eye…skinny jeans/boyfriend jeans. And I’m in the process of growing out my colored hair to its natural grey. That’s not easy! But I’m going to give it a try and go with the best haircut I can afford.

    Thanks for the thought-provoking question, Kim, and welcome!

    • Kim Alexis May 11, 2016 at 5:06 pm

      WOW…great for you. I have a girlfriend who grew out her color and is natural gray and she is STUNNING!

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